My wife asked me....

[neverknow]

Asked what would happen if died in the next few years.. and i found myself frozen with fear. I'm 29 years old and have a heart condition and my wife does not prep. I found myself set with panic and tears. I dont want my wife to suffer if i die and not to do enough while alive to keep her ok without me. Im not sure were im going with maybe just a rant. But damn it we need a community...

[Echo2]

she doesn't share your prepping ideology at all?

[neverknow]

No she dosent. Just goes in the "room" when something is wrong. not sure what else to do.

[Oscar Wilde]

This is one of those times where I'd like to say something .... something helpful, something profound ....
lets start with you .... heart condition. What are you doing about it .... can anything be done? Natural supplements? Hot toddies of cayenne, turmeric and garlic. What can be done to keep you in the game?

Mrs. NeverKnow .... where is she with this? Is she on board with the prepping? Is she independent .... can she be? .... Is there an immediate concern that she needs to begin to imagine herself in the world without you?

I'm praying for you .... lets see what we can figure out.

O.W.

[Echo2]

does she have a clue how to use the preps you have now?

[neverknow]

Im currently taking drugs to control my conditon, But as far as digging a garden or doing anything hard im out, And ive tryed to and i end up having attacks. Ive showed her how to shoot firearms. Im looking for local groups but not sure on how to do it

[Oscar Wilde]

Contact this guy and talk with him regarding you condition. http://www.drasa.com/ Second .... the Mrs. is gonna have to assume some of the responsibility for her existance .... the helping hand that's gonna come along isn't gonna be helpful to her liking.

O.W.

[Echo2]

Contact this guy and talk with him regarding you condition. http://www.drasa.com/ Second .... the Mrs. is gonna have to assume some of the responsibility for her existance .... the helping hand that's gonna come along isn't gonna be helpful to her liking.

O.W.

yup....time to be a big girl.....teach her to use what you have....show her the conditions at the superdome....ask her if that's how she'd want to live.

[maric]

Im so sorry about your condition, as well as situation. I also agree. There is no community or group that is going to help, or "take in" someone who isnt going to be a help to them. Does she just not agree with the lifestyle? Or just does not "get it".. thats a tuffy.. I think she needs to see it as real life, actual situations, not as we have been joking around, about the end of the world..etc. Is she just preoccupied with material things, or is there reasons she does not agree with your philosophy? Im not trying to pry, just honestly to paint a picture, to try to help you!
I too will pray for you... I just dont know how a "community" can open her eyes.. shed probably think were all nuts... Hang in there, let me think a little.. thanks for sharing

[neverknow]

Actually i have the dream girl, She dosent wear make up or collect shoes but she just has no interest in survival. I tryed to get to read one second after. That helped me with my direction in life that i already had started.

[Echo2]

Take a road trip....get the audiobook....

[Skyowl's Wife]

Asked what would happen if died in the next few years.. and i found myself frozen with fear. I'm 29 years old and have a heart condition and my wife does not prep. I found myself set with panic and tears. I dont want my wife to suffer if i die and not to do enough while alive to keep her ok without me. Im not sure were im going with maybe just a rant. But damn it we need a community...

I'll pray for you with O.W. Do you have life insurance?

Can you tell her how worried about her future that you are (which is VERY bad for you). And would like her to at least know what you've got going.

If she can't/won't/doesn't want to, sit down and start typing. Write her a prep manual. Without cooperation, that's about all you can do.

You could set her up with prepper friends, and if you were gone, she may not go to them, anyway.

[Trailbo]

Wow, I can feel for you. My wife says I've lost my mind and whatever happens happens, there's nothing we can do about it. Our situation is we have no money. I lost my job at the end of February and she lost hers 2 weeks later, we worked at the same company. She had a small weekend job before being let go and has since gotten another part time job, but it leaves nothing for preparing. She insists I've lost my mind when I lost my job with all this "end of the world" talk and preparing for what? I just let her blow off her steam and sit back and say it's already started for us. I then do what I can and if it ever does happen I'll just say, "I told ya so". Thanks for believing in me when I needed it. I know it'll make my situation harder, but that's ok. I'll figure it out. I like the idea of writing out or maybe if you can download manuals and preparedness guides for her to refer to. Sorry about the rant, I just wanted you to know that even tho it's not the same exact situation... never the less you are not alone. Hang in there!

[maric]

Wow, I can feel for you. My wife says I've lost my mind and whatever happens happens, there's nothing we can do about it. Our situation is we have no money. I lost my job at the end of February and she lost hers 2 weeks later, we worked at the same company. She had a small weekend job before being let go and has since gotten another part time job, but it leaves nothing for preparing. She insists I've lost my mind when I lost my job with all this "end of the world" talk and preparing for what? I just let her blow off her steam and sit back and say it's already started for us. I then do what I can and if it ever does happen I'll just say, "I told ya so". Thanks for believing in me when I needed it. I know it'll make my situation harder, but that's ok. I'll figure it out. I like the idea of writing out or maybe if you can download manuals and preparedness guides for her to refer to. Sorry about the rant, I just wanted you to know that even tho it's not the same exact situation... never the less you are not alone. Hang in there!

Trailbo, its ok to be frustrated and rant. We all do. An introduction would be nice though. Were all pretty friendly around here.
Im sorry about your situation. Its happened to so many, and will continue to happen. THIS is the time to be prepared. You can explain to your wife that prepping for survival isnt just for crazy people. Your preparing for a new life, with all the issues with being unemployed. We have been in the same boat. Dont think I have mentioned on here before, but the Mr was laid off a year ago. He did machine work. We are a family of 6, so yes, it was and has been very difficult. Stress with financial aspects, it creates issues all around. We have always had quite the love for the outdoors, and firearms and such, so a lot of the "prepping" mentality was not unknown to us. We have collected a lot of gear in the past. We dont spend a ton of money on prepping. If you dont have it to spend, thats ok. You can educate yourself, learning new trades, and preparing that way. Knowledge, knowledge is priceless.. Also, can you garden? It does not cost much to start. I have not spent more than 25 bucks this year, starting new plants I have not yet grown before.. learning.. The only thing financially that gets us through is my husbands in the military(former 82nd Airborne Infantry, now hes in the Ohio guard) We know he is deploying soon, and as awful as it is, a little financial security, for a short time (well maybe if our nations deficit does not affect the military pay) will be nice.. Im sure your wife is under a ton of stress.. Do you have children? There have been some good threads about talking to loved ones about prepping and how to converse with them, not scaring or shunning them.. some real good books out there too. Get them at the library.. free downloads too.. So, there ya go. A little info. My name is maric, and Id be happy to share any little bit of info I have with you. Welcome!

[Oscar Wilde]

.... I then do what I can and if it ever does happen I'll just say, "I told ya so".

I wouldn't .... I know it's difficult to set this aside but WHEN "it" happends your efforts need to be dedicated to reaction and not bickering with each other. Don't waiste time and effort trying to convince her of your way of thinking, spend your time educating yourself and making your preps .... good luck.

O.W.