does anyone else have this problem?

[combatcreep08]

i have trying to get to a state of preparedness for a little while now. stocking up on ammo, guns, a bov, a bob, a bol.....al the bo's.....my problem is, my wife thinks i am friggin nuts!! it started with her just rolling her eyes, or just poking fun, and calling it "viva revolution"...then she started being even more of a biotch about it... saying that i am going to end up like those lonely wierdo conspiracy theorists that live in the mountains and eat rats....etc... she was saying that it was all kind of freaking her out, because i started by stocking up on ammo....so when i got to a decent weapon's cache, i began to start looking into food and water storage, and other gear....i guess the last straw was buying the sawyer water filter system.....now she is trying to get me into therapy and is blaming all of my wanting to be prepared on the military....she thinks that since the corpse taught me to kill kill kill, that i am going to go on some anarchistic suicide mission or something, and just keeps telling me that nothing is ever going to happen and that we (everyone on this site including myself) are nothing more than gnorant paranoid idiots that should all be locked up....

i really don't know how to deal with this. there is no getting through to her (she has self-declared me as insane, which makes anything i try to explain to her null and void as far as being logical) sorry to drop this rant on everybody, but i am at my witt's end, and so is she. if anyone has any input on how to deal with this kind of obstacle, please let me know, before i end up in a messy divorce...

[voodoo]

Nope, nobody thinks Im nuts, they know it! It took months for most of my family to see the light. I just started sharing news items with them in a round about way. Heck, in AZ you have lots to talk about; unemployment soaring, housing crash, increase in crime etc. If all else fails, divorce her! Just move your supplies out before she gets served! :D

[Lostinoz]

Wow Combat! I guess you just have to evaluate your relationship and perhaps some type of compromise can be reached. Nothing is worth throwing a good relationship away.

I wish I could help ya, but my husband is 100% supportive and sees the importance of being prepared. He does his part and I do mine.

I am gathering that you guys do not have health, car, home insurances right? That is a form of preparedness.

One thing for sure is that you cannot force someone to see things your way. If it bothers her to hear you talk about preparedness plans then keep them to yourself unless money is the underlying issue? I know a lot of these items aren't cheap.

I just don't know. :( Sorry.

Oz

[Oscar Wilde]

Semper Fi Devil Dog....not any more...she's moving out. I didn't mind her not participating...but she began to purposefully hinder the effort....she went so far as to threaten to call the police....I'm strictly legal....but this would place me on the radar if I'm not already there....form 4's and such.

[my problem is, my wife thinks i am friggin nuts!!....now she is trying to get me into therapy that i am going to go on some anarchistic suicide mission or something, and just keeps telling me that nothing is ever going to happen and that we (everyone on this site including myself) are nothing more than gnorant paranoid idiots that should all be locked up....]

[i really don't know how to deal with this. there is no getting through to her (she has self-declared me as insane, which makes anything i try to explain to her null and void as far as being logical) sorry to drop this rant on everybody, but i am at my witt's end, and so is she. if anyone has any input on how to deal with this kind of obstacle, please let me know, before i end up in a messy divorce...]
Don't explain....just do.
O.W.

[herbalpagan]

I'm sorry OW that things went that bad. It's too bad that she couldn't see that you were looking out for her.:(

[Skyowl's Wife]

Do you have any children? That will affect my advice.

[hammer502]

just don't take her along when it happens!if your not divorced by then.i hope it works out for you.

[signtalker]

that sounds bad. wish she would see the light and not fight or call u crazy or paranoid. i wouldnt care if anyone called me crazy or paranoid because i would rather be safe than sorry.

[oly]

The reasons I prepare is facts
1- I live in an earthquake zone, not if but when?
2- The economy is scary.
3- FEMA encourage people to obtain a 72 Hr. kit (Its the approximate time for Gov. assistance).
4- If history really does repeat itself, famine or other crisis will occur.
5- I love the outdoors, preferably for recreation only.

[cthulhufan]

i have trying to get to a state of preparedness for a little while now. stocking up on ammo, guns, a bov, a bob, a bol.....al the bo's.....my problem is, my wife thinks i am friggin nuts!! it started with her just rolling her eyes, or just poking fun, and calling it "viva revolution"...then she started being even more of a biotch about it... saying that i am going to end up like those lonely wierdo conspiracy theorists that live in the mountains and eat rats....etc... she was saying that it was all kind of freaking her out, because i started by stocking up on ammo....so when i got to a decent weapon's cache, i began to start looking into food and water storage, and other gear....i guess the last straw was buying the sawyer water filter system.....now she is trying to get me into therapy and is blaming all of my wanting to be prepared on the military....she thinks that since the corpse taught me to kill kill kill, that i am going to go on some anarchistic suicide mission or something, and just keeps telling me that nothing is ever going to happen and that we (everyone on this site including myself) are nothing more than gnorant paranoid idiots that should all be locked up....

i really don't know how to deal with this. there is no getting through to her (she has self-declared me as insane, which makes anything i try to explain to her null and void as far as being logical) sorry to drop this rant on everybody, but i am at my witt's end, and so is she. if anyone has any input on how to deal with this kind of obstacle, please let me know, before i end up in a messy divorce...

I'm blessed like a few others with a spouse that has realized the err of many things in our "American" culture. Having said that, however, my first "wife" was well entrenched in the "American" consumerist/entitlement mentality. Not saying your wife is the same but, merely, stating that I've had to deal with that before.

I would agree with oz that a relationship is a terrible thing to waste and, if I were you, I would make every effort to educate her. There are more than enough indisputable facts, without delving into the realm of conspiracy theory, that you can bring up that should raise some questions and concerns in her mind. Also, prepping can be sold as a 'what if we have an earthquake/hurricane' deal pretty easily without too much trouble as long as you aren't going off of the deep end by procuring 'crazy' stuff like grenades and M60s. From what I've read it sounds like you're not. "What's wrong with being prepared for *reasonable* scenarios?" is the question I'd ask there. If she's right, no biggie, you have extra food, camping supplies, and plenty of rounds to throw down range while all the other idiots are paying $2.00 per round yet can't afford to go to the range and actually practice.

If you don't have kids, it becomes much easier in the aspect that if you don't work it out, it's a little easier to walk away and find someone with a similar mindset.

I would, personally, do everything in my power to bring the light of reason to her mind before considering severing the relationship.

Also, look at it from her perspective. Are you being nuts? Have you gone crazy with the SHTF mentality lately. Shifting from first to sixth gear rarely gets good results. I know if my wife got involved in some movement/mentality and went from zero to sixty in less than a second, I'd be skeptical as well.

[Zombie Axe]

As Jack Spirko on the Survival Podcast says, "helping you live a better life if times get tough, or even if they don't."

Sure guns are a bunch of fun to collect and shoot, but a lot of times preppers go way too heavy on guns and ammo...

Prepping is about storing food and supplies and having the abilities to grow or make more when Wal-mart is closed or will never be open again.

Don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with weaponary, but I think the women folk that are unelightened will see prepping as just as an excuse for you to buy more guns...

It does make it easier when both are onboard :)

Maybe next time the power goes out during a freak ice storm/hurricane or whatever and you keep her belly full of food as well as the kids, dry, safe,and with a few modern conviences she may take a different look at those things...

If all you can produce during an emergency is a shotgun and a box of shells, you ain't gonna change her mind ;)

And some women are so hard headed nothing you can do will change their mind on anything... My wife thinks the same way about me too... so if the shoe fits, then wear it :D

[waitnc]

Zombie Axe,

I am feeling for you brother, I once had a spouse like that and I gave in and sold off some good guns and good ammo to shut her mouth up. But, I gave her the big D and have replaced her with a very like minded woman. No more long explanations needed, no political agruements. She thanks me for opening her eyes. I am not telling you to replace her but, if your life was like mine I would consider it. Better to have a "Partner" then "baggage".

[Skyowl's Wife]

Better to have a "Partner" then "baggage".

This is why I asked if he has children. He must stay and raise them if he does.

If not, DON'T make any. If the two of them have such fundamental differences in philosophy, they will not succeed, it is NOT a "successful relationship". He should wave bye-bye.

Your marriage should be the unit that is most solid in your life (after your faith in your God). You MUST have each others backs, you MUST be able to talk to each other, understand each other.

She does NOT have his back, he CANNOT talk to her, they do not understand each other.

[herbalpagan]

Husbands and wives will have differences, but they should be differences that you can compromise on and live with. A complete difference is not a good thing! You need a partner in life, not a co-habitator who complains about all you do to try and make your family safe. A spouse should also not put you down for something you really believe in. If I didn't agree with the guns, I would have compromised and insisted that an equal amount of money go towards food or other preps.

[pathfinder3081]

Oh man,
Try to make it all look like a hobby (smile) and don't ditch your wife because she thinks that you are going a little over board. Try to maintain a "calmness" about it all and be careful about your wording. If you act too frantic and become a "panic prepper". You'll definatley have her calling the Docs. Or worse you mother! (smile) I don't think that you have alot of ice storms out there or other conditions that would prove you where right with a store if chow and alternate provision for electricity but it would hard to argue with extra water, I have been in the AZ from Tombstone to Sedoma..
Don't be thinking about divorce (jeepers)Your bed will be getting cold at night. You can't give her the boot because she thinks that you are acting abit over board. "Slow down your moving to fast"